Are father's less emotional when taking care of babies?
66Men do have emotions. Most men do not show their emotions as they "presume" that if they show emotions, they tend to be seen as weak. So most men do not show off emotions and control them to a great extent. All male and female have both feminine and masculine traits. The person with more of feminine traits tends to show emotions than with more masculine traits and vice versa. You can see many women who have masculine traits behave like men many times.
But some people say that very few men have a kind of patience for taking care of babies and putting them to sleep and many don't know how to handle a baby even when they are willing and that causes frustration and then they give up.
I am very patient in this regard and of course my girl has her own way to adjust with me. My little one never sleeps in her mother's lap without her feed, but I always rock her to sleep.
When I discussed this question "father's emotional relationship with babies" with my wife she told me that "you know soni it happens with other men because they are not involved with baby from starting the way women are and when suddenly a howling baby is thrust upon them, they get scared and overwhelmed. Idea is to involve them from starting and handling a baby requires extraordinary patience. Most men feel more involved when they get some response in return, so they generally like to take responsibility when babies are older and can communicate with them. Then, they like to play with them and answer their questions.", a very sensible answer indeed.
But I would say it varies from person to person. There are cases when fathers are more attached and expressive to their children. By and large, it is mother because that's how nature has made it. Nature has made a woman to be a nurturer, caretaker, full of emotions, and expressive. The emotions flow so easily from them, but that no way makes men less emotional. Just the way of expression differs.
If we talk about patience, it is the key not only to put the baby to sleep but with everything. It is all up to the individual's patience, tolerance level despite sex. In my sister's family, it is the reverse. My sister has tons of patience while my sister's husband cannot tolerate a screaming wailing colicky baby for a single hour. He would just lock into his room and shut and sleep. Fathers take longer to bond with the child than the mother. The mother after all carried the child for 9 months in her womb, goes through a major upheaval physically, mentally, emotionally while pregnant. The mother has to think twice about what she eats, does etc while pregnant. This carries on even after the child is born, but this is not the case with the father.
I also had some problem in starting to come close to my daughter but now I think I am a perfect dad. Now let me know something about you???
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When I read your first line it reminded me of my own father who never showed his feelings. But I have seen several fathers more emotional than their mothers when it comes to kids.
My father had tremendous confidence and faith on me. He appreciated me and praised me in front of relatives and friends... but never showed his appreciation in front of me which use to make me feel unwanted and uncared for as a child. It also somehow resulted in my being a rebel and distancing myself from my family mentally. Children are not mind readers. I think if you love someone you should show it and not keep it hidden in your mind.
I may have had a bad childhood, but I would never make my son or daughter suffer like I did. After all, we also learn from the mistakes of our Parents. If I too repeat the same mistakes of my Parents, what difference is there in them and me?
ITS A LONG RELATIONSHIP. ITS NOT END.
No,it's not like that ..that's great hub










princeland 3 years ago
Thanks for the great answer to my question. Great hub. When my kids were small, I had same emotions with them as my wife and now when they have grown up, the bond seems to have become stronger.